This evening I heard an interview with Shirley Hazzard, the Australian author. Shirley, now in her 70’s, talked briefly about the loss of her husband. She had a really interesting take on her life now, that she often felt was living and enjoying life for her husband as well.
I’ve never thought of Ellen in the same way, I guess that’s because in reality I never knew her… only the thought of her. And she wasn’t the lifelong friend and companion that a husband was to a widow. But, the idea that I’m now enjoying life for Ellen immediately struck a cord. Mary said that she’s sometimes had this thought. It’s certainly a reassuring one. I think I’ll keep it handy.