This evening I heard an interview with Shirley Hazzard, the Australian author.  Shirley, now in her 70’s, talked briefly about the loss of her husband.  She had a really interesting take on her life now, that she often felt was living and enjoying life for her husband as well.

I’ve never thought of Ellen in the same way, I guess that’s because in reality I never knew her… only the thought of her.  And she wasn’t the lifelong friend and companion that a husband was to a widow.  But, the idea that I’m now enjoying life for Ellen immediately struck a cord.  Mary said that she’s sometimes had this thought.  It’s certainly a reassuring one.  I think I’ll keep it handy.